Have you ever gotten far with hate? - think about it, did anything or anyone ever respond the way you wanted when you approached a situation with aggression and hate?..probably no - and neither will your body. The way you feel and talk about and to yourself is essential for your overall wellbeing🧚🏽♀️. When you feel bad about yourself your entire reality will be influenced by that feeling - it all starts and ends within YOU. You are your reality. How could someone notice all the good and beautiful when being blinded by the hate we crearted ourselves - it will always blur our vision. Realizing that you are, just as is, always enough and worth love is a complete game changer. Imagine being at peace with yourself, loving all that you are and giving your body what it needs to function properly simply because you know it will make you feel the best you can - not out of force and because you want to change..but because you love yourself and know when you treat yourself the best you can your body will naturally come to its healthy weight (whatever that is) and your mind will suddenly have so much free capacity to fill with more important things like going camping and actually taking everything in because you can focus on the present instead of what you look like in clothes or when you sit down or being afraid of the possibility that you might have to wear a bikini..and besides, don't forget the food! - camping, sunsets, beach days, coffee dates, hourlong laughs with your best friend..whatever it is, it is what we will never be able to fully take in and enjoy without healing ourselves from these wrong beauty ideals, comparison and lacking selfworth. Do it with love and love as much as you can - it's the only thing that multiplies when sharing♥️
When you lose the weight but also the tan🐢
I heard you like bad girls. Well I am bad. At everything. *winks at you with both eyes*
Friendly reminder that your 100% are A L W A Y S good enough - whether others approve or don't. Whatever you are doing, as long as you're trying (and that includes aswell days that you don't try at all or even are being contraproductive - that's all part of it..and very very very okay. Who the hell can give 100% each day? Sometimes we gotta go crazy and do a -50% one. Jk. But you get what I mean. Rite. Okay that bracket was longer than I intended it to be, back to sirius talk) you are doing enough. More than enough. We have these wild expectations of how and when everything should work out..but it usually doesn't, we kinda forget the human factor. Like..life. We are no computers who simply work the way they are expected to - we. Are. Human. We can't calculate our future in advance. We just gotta roll with whatever comes our way - and ..letting go control isn't all easy peezy lemon squeezy. It is okay to not be where you wanna be at. It's probably exactly what you need right now tho. Let's not beat ourselves up for being human and being able to think and feel. We all experience life in a different way. Comparison is the killer of joy - you. Are. Doing. Great. Even if it doesn't feel like it. Hey. You're trying♥️
Me looking at my fresh cup of coffee every morning like☕♥️
*sips on coffee while waiting for gains*
Selflove is such an important topic to me. I keep discovering what loving yourself a c t u a l l y feels and what a difference it makes in my life. Selflove doesn't just mean love yourself. It means; • love yourself enough to be honest to yourself and call yourself out. • love yourself enough to stay away from toxic people and especially identifying these early on • love yourself enough to care about your mental and physical well being - and that one looks different to everybody. Get to know yourself and find out what's that to you❤ • love yourself enough to say no. • love yourself enough to be kind and loving to YOU. • love and know yourself enough to rest, but also to push yourself just the right way. • love yourself enough to forgive. • love yourself enough to fuck up sometimes, it's okay❤🌻 • love yourself enough to know it can't always be pure love and some days you will struggle and be ok with it🌞 Love. Your. Damn. Self. Just as much as you'd love the most important person in your life - das you. Only YOU. Without you there is nothing left. You are good as is, exactly where you are and need to be, you do you and don't ever compromise yourself to fit better into a situation or with people. Your vibe attracts your tribe, let your tribe be love.❤ #DidIBreakTheRecordForMentioningTheWordLoveLike73736TimesInACaptionYet #srslytho #loveyourdamnself
I always looked up to people on here being transparent and honest, especially with themselves. It's. So. Hard. Lately I haven't been, simply because it took me a ton of time myself to realize what's going on. I can't remember a time I haven't struggled with diet. Until I was 16 years old I kept overeating and suppress feelings, then I started working out like crazy and ate way too little plus controlled every little thing about what was going in my mouth. Then I stopped eating for a while, because I was tired of thinking about food 24/7, then I started binging and purging..and up to this day things haven't changed much. Last year I figured I finally am in a good place with food, turns out, again, Sarah; stop bullshitting yourself, mkay💁🏽♂️. I never liked to talk a lot about what's really going on, I tend to still dissociate and be superficial - it scares me to show this side, I never wanted people to view me as weak or somebody who needs help, but all of us know das sum bs and I need to remind myself of that daily. Showing what you feel Is. Always. A. Good. Idea.🌞 Don't be ashamed of your story, be proud of it fam💕 For me, whenever I feel like nothing in my life goes right I turn to food, I control it, aka I avoid it at all costs. I preach selflove and bodypositivity, intuitive eating - and I am all for and in that, it is simply a long ass way and sometimes it get's real hard and you want to turn around. BUT we don't. We keep going this path no matter what💁🏻♀️ maybe you gotta take a break because it gets exhausting, but you👏don't👏leave👏the👏path👏. You can be struggling, healing and making progress at the same time. Tbh that's what it feels like most of the times in life for me. All I want to say is; Hi I struggle a lot too and you aren't alone💕 you are still a badass for trying and don't have anything to be ashamed of. Be proud of you still smiling, living and trying, every issue we have is a gift to grow, and trust me, the gifts just keep coming atcha 💁🏽♀️
Let's talk diet. 🍕 We all love food. At least we think we do. In fact, what we consider as love, is the toxic kind of love; the "I love it but it is bad for me" kind of love. Most of us are afraid of food. - That's why we try to control it with whatever tools we have; cutting out certain foods, counting macros, iifym etc. Humans always have the urge to control everything, because we are afraid of the unknown - and we are afraid to not be in control. The thing is..we can't control anything. Ever. We can make plans and get mad when it doesn't work out. That's basically all we can do. Instead of enjoying life we try to structure everything. - why? - because fear, that's why. We do the same with food. Instead of enjoying it, instead of focusing to relearn to listen to our bodies and take the time it needs to properly heal from whatever we have done to unlearn one of the most natural things, we try to fix it with even more unnatural rules. Food isn't the enemy. Our mindsets are. We distinguish bad and good foods. Food is energy. - whether it comes from a donut or an apple. The only difference is that there are foods who provide us with long lasting energy that keeps our blood sugar levels somewhat stabil, and foods that provide us with quick but not long lasting energy. That's it. No good or bad. Just different. The moment we realize there is no such thing as good and bad( another thing humans like to do; categorize anything so they feel like they know what's up) our brains will stop favorizing certain kinds of food;because there won't be a difference anymore. Our brains are simple. Tell a teenager he isn't allowed to do something - well guess what, he will want it even more. Tell someone he can't eat something..you get me? As soon as you know you can always have everything and nothing is better or worse you will stop craving what you aren't allowed to eat..because you are allowed to eat it. You will give your brain and body the chance to figure it out on its own. Food is not numbers and %. Let go of the illusion of control. Give yourself the chance to learn how to nature. That's what we are made for💁🍕🍅
"I took a road that wasn't the road, but it was something I chose and that's fine."
When everything your sibling owns is more interesting and better than your stuff - even the lighting in their room☻😂
Wasgud🤗 2019 started with a huge detox, mentally and physicsally. Not when I planned it (which I don't do anyways💁🏻♀️)but when I needed it most without even knowing (Say haaaay when you're good at forgetting about your own wellbeing🙆🏽♀️). And the first steps of detox just as relaxation are absolutely not comfortable. Everything that needs to come to the surface will - and so will all the emotions, issues, fears and wishes you accumulated and denied..which tends to be real scary and uncomfortable and therefore usually leads to ignoring all of these chances to grow and leave everything unresolved and put it somewhere back in the infinite expanses of your mind. But this time I am forcing myself to stay right here and actively take every step it needs to learn more about myself, my wishes and needs, fears and all the dark places I tend to ignore. Never miss a chance to grow. Feel the uncomfortable, welcome it - it is where all the magic happens❤. There is no growth, beauty, excitement and all the good stuff without the challenge. Sure, I did it too, often enough, ignoring situations that keep repeating themselves, pointed with my finger at others when I should have pointed it at myself, ignored patterns and the fact that I create my reality. It lead to more suffering and same situations but every time a bit more intense. At some point you kinda have to open your eyes tho. That, to me, is one of the biggest reponsibilities adults have. Reflection. Selfreflection. Being honest to yourself and have some deep talks with yourself. Welcome change, everything new at first seems stupid - afterall we are humans and we are creatures of habit, don't use that as an excuse tho💁🏻♀️🌻
Haven't done one of those in ages. I actually do not want to talk weightloss in this post. I want to talk ..I honestly don't even know what I should call that. Most people who post before and afters always add something like "I feel so much better now.", "I am ashamed to post this" and that kinda stuff. But the thing is, why? - why do we feel better now? - why are we ashamed of our before? I don't feel ashamed. I feel proud. I wasn't proud back then, but I should have been. Proud of whatever else I did in my life, proud of who I was, proud that I decided back then to change my ways. I wasn't happy with how I looked, but I wasn't happier when I lost weight either. It has never been the outside that would change my outlook on life, my appearance never determined my happiness or emotions. It was my mindset, my ways of thinking, that were destructive. And now, 6 years later, I start to feel good. Not because I lost weight, but because throughout those years of losing weight and getting into working out and diet and mental health, I realized that the thing that changes when you lose weight, or at least should, in my opinion, is your mindset; and exactly that determines your happiness and mental and physical health. Not the weight. The weight is a product of what goes on in our minds. Weight is superficial, it doesn't truly influence how we feel. What does is our thoughts and how we treat ourselves. So obviously, once you start caring about yourself, you feel better. The weight, again, is only a product of that change in your mindset. It is nothing. In my opinion, in my reality, everyone creates the world they live in to a certain extent, so whatever we want to change, we have to start with ourselves. We are the key. You are. Weight, looks, whatever else, it isn't the thing that counts, that determines how we feel. It is how we think about ourselves and how we treat ourselves. You can lose all the weight you want if you don't change your mindset, you'll still feel shitty. It begins and ends in your mind.
Al dente in the soul
A balanced diet is coffee in both hands💁🏻♀️☕ Lesbe sirius for a second 🤗 It is so easy to forget what you have accomplished and be hard on yourself thinking about what you havent managed yet. BUT there always will be things we still have to work on or gotta get done. That's life; you accomplish one thing and the next thing is already waiting - without challenges we can't evolve and grow. It kinda has to be this way. That's nature. That's evolution. Humans simply tend to think in an unnatural way: It has got to be perfect or it isn't good enough - 'perfect' is a human construction, it isn't approachable, and that's what causes our doubts, thoughts about not being good enough and frustration. Yet, when I think about it, it is perfect as is; you get stuff done, then there still are things that await you. Change is everlasting. There won't ever be a moment in life where there is nothing to work on. And that's good! - That's our chance to learn, broaden our horizons and live life, nothing to be mad about. Stagnation isn't desirable, it's the biggest enemy we can encounter. Long story short; next time you are sad about what you haven't got done yet or still have problems with..be proud of yourself for what you already have accomplished and happy about the lessons you yet have to live through. Let's not be hard on ourselves, be kind and loving, all of us deserve it❣
Sorry for the crappy picture quality - buuuut I lost my phone and have a temporary one, nothing out of thw normal, chaotic and bad with technology alll the way☻😂 Celebrating all parts of my body, the stretch marks, the softness, the scars and the hipdip, the muscles I built - celebrating that I have a body I can use and that is there for me. Life's a process and so are you (and so is cleaning mirrors btw). You are part of the universe's process and vice versa. Be as patient with yourself as you'd be with the person you love most...which should be yourself❤.